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New parents sleep!

Sleep deprivation when you have a newborn baby is inevitable. For quite some time, newborns need to feed around every couple of hours. This means that parents sleep is broken at best. Although sleep deprivation is highly predictable in the postpartum period, I didn’t really get information as to how to best manage it. I was told “sleep when your baby sleeps” and that was it.

This article from the New York Times gives some pointers. I would add that sometimes the only solution to get some sleep back is for someone else to take over.

Call in someone who can do 2 or 3 nights for you. Your helper would sleep in the same room as your baby whilst you sleep elsewhere and try to bank as many hours of sleep as possible. If you breastfeed exclusively or mix feed, your helper would do everything except the actual feed. They would wake when baby cries, do the nappy change, the winding and put baby back to sleep. You would only do the actual feed and hand baby over as soon as she’s finished. If you exclusively formula feed, your helper would do everything, including the feed.

The key to better sleep when you have a new baby

Preparing for baby? Organise a meal train!

What is a meal train?  

It is the idea of rallying together to temporarily support someone by bringing them meals at home. In my view, it is an ideal gift for new parents. The first few months after birth are labour intensive and removing meal preparations out of the day can be a huge help. 

You could ask a close relative or friend to set it up and manage it for you. The digital platform makes it easy to plan who is volunteering and when. It might be particularly useful if your baby comes early or if your own preparations don’t prove to be enough.

Find out more in this article:


Thank you

This is a post to thank all the organisations and websites who helped me gather information to write Preparing to give birth for the first time.

All the references and links I mention in the book can be found here.

Thank you…



Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists

Pelvic Obstetric and Gynaecological Physiotherapy


The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence



NHS Choices

Stripey Stork

Cochrane Library


Wiley online library

Babycentre UK

UK Fed is best

Twins UK


Care Quality Commission

Royal College of Midwives


Group B Strep Support

Royal College of Psychiatrists


PANDAS Foundation

Maternal OCD

Bipolar UK

The Miscarriage Association


Action on Pre-eclampsia


Women’s Aid

Broken Rainbow UK


Child bereavement UK


Samaritans UK

Rethink Mental Illness


The Little Heartbeats




Birthmark Support Group

Lullaby Trust

Parent-infant sleep lab at Durham University


The Breastfeeding Network

La Leche League


Go real

Bum deal


Action on Postpartum Psychosis

MASIC Foundation

Bladder and Bowel UK

Birth Trauma Association

Birth Tear Support

4th Degree Tear Support Group Facebook group

Living with Obstetric Fistula Facebook group


Unfold your wings Emma Jane Sasuru

PND and me Rosey Adams

Reaching Out Positive Motivation Hope Mark Williams

PND Daddy Tony

Dads in Mind